tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1709537690528523236.post1715692415302184720..comments2024-03-29T05:47:08.860+10:00Comments on in my view ...: grief is not a contagionobakesanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13743339737847465926noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1709537690528523236.post-22181433652133544462012-11-21T13:10:38.629+10:002012-11-21T13:10:38.629+10:00You are so right Chris. The amount of times I'...You are so right Chris. The amount of times I've heard the "been thinking of you, just don't know what to say". <br />Tip.... <br />Don't think about me, talk to me, even if it to say "I don't know what to say, but I'm hear to listen".Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1709537690528523236.post-84104285584643637092012-11-20T20:49:59.361+10:002012-11-20T20:49:59.361+10:00I think it's a cultural thing in Australia. A...I think it's a cultural thing in Australia. A lot of folks here think it's better to let others deal with grief on their own - and therefore it's better to stay away until asked. <br />Seen that a few times already in other cases.<br />Totally the opposite of my background and culture, where it is expected folks will indeed keep in touch often in times like this.<br />Ah well... The joys of a multicultural society like ours...Noonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04285930853937157148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1709537690528523236.post-36744411910908146542012-11-20T01:07:54.563+10:002012-11-20T01:07:54.563+10:00good point, Chris. Thank you for educatinggood point, Chris. Thank you for educatingCharles Maclauchlanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16371804975922943864noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1709537690528523236.post-68294410153271176162012-11-19T15:04:58.184+10:002012-11-19T15:04:58.184+10:00Tanja, thanks for your kind words.
I don't fe...Tanja, thanks for your kind words.<br /><br />I don't feel my closest friends have left me feeling abandoned. My closest friends have been keep in touch with me something between weekly and daily.<br /><br />Having said that, others have said they would like to say hi but are afraid to.<br /><br />In conversation with a work colleague who has lost her husband (while she herself is getting over cancer) I found that many others experience exactly this.<br /><br />So I wrote about it.<br /><br />Perhaps one day I'll put together these thoughts here into a single resource. Maybe it will help others.<br /><br />it would be nice if <i>something</i> positive came out of this mess ...obakesanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13743339737847465926noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1709537690528523236.post-89593502783496333752012-11-19T14:51:11.352+10:002012-11-19T14:51:11.352+10:00You are so right about that feeling; people make y...You are so right about that feeling; people make you feel so god damn lonely when "leaving" you alone, literally (that's how it's feels) forgetting you after the funeral or just a bit later than that. I don't know whether it's about being so busy in their own lives and in the same time thinking that you'd also like to have some 'space' to carry on. Or is it's just that they can't face your grief that seems to be going on and on and on... Even though it's more than natural that it takes a lot(!) of time to recover. <br /><br />Whatever the reason, I am sorry to hear that you have been left so alone. I was reading a book last weekend and kept thinking it would be great to have that also in English. It would have been nice also for you to read (maybe). Written by a wife who lost her husband and soul mate for the brain tumour.<br /><br />Hope to see you here soon.. :)<br />Tanjanoreply@blogger.com