Some time ago I identified that people can lose themselves in their roles. I first noticed this with women.
Today I realised that I was still wearing my "husband hat".
I have never been a selfless or selfish person. But when it came to my wife I put everything else aside for her. I think that part of the reasons that I feel lost and without direction is exactly because I am still wearing that hat.
Perhaps putting down that hat is what others mean when they talk about "letting go"
Well for now I need to keep in mind that I do things for me, and me alone.
That will be a change.